Acknowledge Your Importance
Why are the promises you make to yourself the easiest ones to break? Is it because the only person you'll disappoint is yourself? Or that you've prioritized others over your goals? Either way, you deserve better than that. Think of a promise as a powerful muscle - like the glutes or lats - that can affect how your body looks, moves, and feels. Just like a muscle, you can strengthen your promise over time and develop it into one of your assets. The stronger your promise becomes, the more probable it is that you'll be able to commit to reaching your goals, whether that's to move more, eat better or finally sign up for a race.
Train the Power of Your Word
I (Jen) first experienced this concept when I promised myself that I wouldn't eat dessert in restaurants. I focused on one dinner at a time. It felt a little low impact in the moment, but looking back, it was the just-right start: a small, clear goal that was surprisingly hard for me to accomplish. I told no one about this, which forced accountability and strength to come only from me. I made it through that week. And I used this small exercise to prove to myself that I could trust myself. This dessert challenge marked the end of my empty promises. My confidence grew every time I kept a promise I made to myself. Whenever I failed, I used that as information about where my system was faulty and applied it to the next opportunity.
I (Ann) really appreciate that Jen uses the word "opportunity". When you fail, you often feel guilty or discouraged. When the challenge presents itself again, the tendency is to try to avoid the situation, be intimidated by it or give up. I prefer to look at the next challenge as another opportunity to try again.
When I was taking tennis lessons, I was not successful many times. Each time the ball came to me, I attempted to look at it as another opportunity to try again. I got another turn; another chance. The more turns I got, the more I improved.
See opportunity in each choice you make this week. Work that promise muscle.
Make your promise stick.
Stay Active, Keep Moving and
Enjoy Your Food